Domestic violence against men is more common than you might think.

Jodee Lucero, executive director of Cross Timbers Family Services, says that during the 2016 fiscal year, CTFS provided services to 281 victims of violent crime. Of that total 39 were male including nine who reported IPV (intimate partner violence).

“There has not been as much research done about male IPV,” Lucero said. “However, there are a few studies that have shown that men are less likely than women to seek help.”

As with many IPV survivors, education is important, Lucero said.

Many people, male and female, only recognize severe physical abuse as domestic violence.

As a society understanding that IPV presents itself in many forms including physical and verbal abuse, emotional abuse, sexual abuse, stalking or cyberstalking, economic or financial abuse and spiritual abuse, is crucial.  

“I think there are stigmas attached to being a victim of domestic violence or sexual assault,” Lucero said. “As a whole people look to the person experiencing IPV for explanations: Why did they beat you? What causes your partner to be so upset with you? These questions place responsibility on the IPV survivor. Then factor in the abuser telling the survivor that they are responsible for the abuse. It is sheer bravery that leads someone experiencing IPV to make a report or seek services.”