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Posted: Thursday, August 29, 2013 12:12 pm

In all reality, wonderful children usually have wonderful families, right? Then what is the problem here? I am a 50 year old grandmother of nine wonderful children, the only trouble I have ever had is a no seatbelt ticket. I have lived in this town in Texas for the past 40 years. I have always thought Texas was about the most Fair State to its U.S. Citizens. Until around a year ago when my family had to deal with Child Protective Services in a small town. Yes don't get me wrong I'm sure they have and do save hundreds of children from lives of hunger, filth, abuse and neglect. But with my recent experiences with them, they only want to focus on one side of the fence. I assure you, as all you know nobody is perfect — nobody. Anything C.P.S. Can find out about one's life — past or present that they don't consider “right” — they will pick it apart fiber by fiber under their microscope. Needless to say — most “good” people have made at least one mistake in the raising and providing for their children — hence — that is what C.P.S. focus is on. When in all reality their main focus should be on the children, do they look under fed, are they clean, do they have a clean bed, clean bedding, clothes and space to play and also toys, books, activities, etc., to play with? But the most important of all is rarely or never mentioned as a focal point — that's the children's demeanor and mannerisms... Are they rude to people, mean, do they hit, kick or spit, how about “fits” temper tantrums when they don't get their way or something they want, and destroy and tear things up on purpose for no reason, or instead of all that, do they act with respect and in a timely manner when they are asked or told to do or not to do something, and when they are playing and think nobody is watching them do they laugh, smile and play like they don't have a care in the world. Most children that don't get everything they need from their family — do everything on the above list except the last two things. The last tow is what good happy children do — right. I really don't think C.P.S. even takes the time to focus on anything but the “system process” of making sure that the parents do everything they want them to do so they can be considered “good” parents. Not to say that they parents shouldn't have certain things they have to do — depending on what the original problem that was the purpose for the investigation — that goes without saying whatever the problem — it needs to be fixed. But for C.P.S. to have the power to take children from their family and adopt them out like they were orphans without even looking and considering how wonderful the children are — they had to get wonderful somehow. I'm sure it is not from abuse or neglect. But what they do is on one call the receive they automatically come and remove the children from the only family they have ever known as quick as they can and place them with “competent” strangers that have no love in their heart for these children. Oh, but yes these “competent” strangers are paid — by C.P.S. a good hunk of money per child and are only required to spend a percentage of said money on the child — the rest is for... (whatever) that is why in my opinion, some of these (most) foster families welcome strange children into their homes without knowing anything about the children — just my opinion. Do they or C.P.S. even think or care about how scared and hurt the children are being jerked out of their life and shoved some place where they don't know anybody. Changing schools from a school they have went their whole life, losing all their friends and family in the blink of an eye. No, I think not. Their (CPS) only answer to that is “Kids are far more resilient than you think, they bounce back and adjust quickly”. How do you think your children or grandchildren would feel? I know mine are terrified to the point of nightmares — that is trauma and the only abuse they have ever had, and it was not caused by anyone but C.P.S. In my opinion C.P.S. doesn't take one look at those things, much less a long enough look to judge if the children need to be removed from the home because they don't think they are being raised right! Who is to say what is right — them — C.P.S. workers? Well like it or not someone has given them power to decide such life changing “processes”. Doesn't it make sense to anyone else except me that if the children are good health, clean and happy, not all bruised up and loved from the heart and not the wallet, that more times than not getting everything they need. I feel that the children that are not being abused in their homes — are being abused as soon as they are ripped from their home and family by C.P.S! It's the actions and power of the “Child Protective Service System” that traumatize the children to the point of nightmares and fear of never seeing their families again. That for a fact is how my grandchildren reacted. That is abuse no matter how you look at it and all from a “system” that is supposed to save them from trauma! It is out of control — the power C.P.S. has, from what I've seen in the past year. I pray for everyone who has children and grandchildren under the age of 18 years. That they never have some nosy or vengeful person make that one phone call that gets C.P.S. involved in their lives. I just hope you will pray with me everyday that no child, parent, sibling, grandparent, or any other family member should have to go through such heartache and devastation my family and friends have had to face in the last year — just to prove them — selves “good enough” for C.P.S. system “people” they are just people not “gods”! All it should take is for them (CPS) to spend time with the family and pay attention to the children, find out who they are and if they are in any danger of abuse or neglect before they rip the family apart. They are supposed to be schooled and trained to see those things, in my opinion — even an idiot could see if a child needed removed from a home — if they take the time to look!

Wonder how many families have been torn apart and destroyed by “Child Protective Service Systems” that would have been fine without interference from C.P.S. — would it out number the ones they save? Not in my experiences!

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